Becoming Real

It’s a good day to sit and write a blog post. It’s 7 degrees out with several inches of snow on the ground. I’m perfectly happy to drink tea and think. I’ve pondered ideas for my first official post and decided I’d address the implications of my business name: REAL Coaching. Each letter stands for something of value to me (Responsive, Engaged, Agile Living), each of which I’ll leave for another day. It’s the word REAL I thought I’d discuss. The other words grew out of that one, not the other way around. So, why the word Real? It isn’t meant as a way to imply that other coaching isn’t genuine or effective, by any means. Rather, I consider it a quality of being and relating that has guided my own journey and growth, and one I find vital personally. In an earlier iteration of my business I used the tag line, Get Real. It sounded like a lot of attitude, but in truth I meant it sincerely…I am deeply driven by a desire to be real in this world. And by Real I mean safe being me. What’s fundamental to the quest for Realness, though, is the responsibility it puts upon the quester… to be self-aware. Being oneself isn’t about having permission to say and do whatever is wanted, whenever is wanted. It actually demands ongoing work on one’s own Emotional Intelligence, learning to tune in, honestly, to emotions, motives, reactions and truths, even when they’re not pretty. That’s probably the hardest part – having to be Real with oneself first and to do so with compassion and...

Real Life: Thoughts on Being Human

Day 1… Welcome to the Real Life blog. So glad you’re here. I’ve often thought about blogging, and I realize two things have stood – primarily –  in my way: 1) Naming it. I know, it sounds silly, but I really get hung up on naming and titling things. 2) My own story that I’d never be able to write short, meaningful pieces. Just ask my students, or my son…talking and writing briefly isn’t my thing. So why now? I spend my time teaching, coaching, reading, writing, (watching Netflix) and…thinking. Lots of thinking. Seeking connections and patterns and ways of understanding life, people and most of all, I admit, myself. The writing part has taken a back seat lately, and I miss it. I figured a blog was a way to begin organizing all of those thoughts, patterns and connections. What will I write about? What does “Thoughts on Being Human” even mean? For me it means recognizing we’re all sharing a common journey on this spinning planet; it means understanding we’re all doing our very best to discover our place, and how we fit in to this complex puzzle of life. It’s a beautiful, messy, tragic and wonderful experience. And no matter our differences, we’re all part of this one big family of humans. And inside that job, there are a lot of things we have in common. I just thought I’d offer some of my observations, ideas, learnings…and see where it all goes. I thank you for stopping by and very much hope you will...